I’m way too popular – Wedding Invitation List Woes

Yeah you read correctly. Sort of.

Mona and I are talking about getting married. We’re not even engaged yet but she does tend to run with ideas. We’ve looked at rings and I’m saving up. And we’re also talking about how a wedding would work logististically: how are we paying for it, venue, time of year, day of the week and, of course, how many people we’d invite.

And that’s where I get into trouble. I have like 54 family members I have to invite- parents, siblings, in laws, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins.

Then I have my friends with their spouses/girlfriend/boyfriend/guests. And that’s another 34 people.

So a grand total of 88 for me alone. Honestly these are people I really should invite. Cutting anyone would be hard. Over the years I’ve just accumulated lots of different people and I stay in contact with them.


To manage the price we’d love to keep it to 100. Mona has less people to invite than I do… but more than 12.

I’d honestly consider a “family only” mandate for my side, but that would SUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK.

Yes, we’re looking into ways to keep the budget down- unique venue, no flowers, maybe an elongated cocktail hour-style party, no dinner, maybe a destination wedding… (sigh) or maybe just elope.

Ugh, this is frustrating.

Or maybe I should bring in just a shitload of money. That would solve all of these problems.

(Yes, I know many of my blog readers aren’t Mona fans from things I’ve written over the years. We’ve had more arguments than I haven’t written about too, all couples fight. But we’ve also had a lot of progress, great times and movement towards a long term situation. No, I haven’t met the kids yet. Call me crazy but that doesn’t bother me as much as it bothers some blog readers.)



  1. My dear wife Karen and I eloped to City Hall … in Niagara Falls. Loved the experience, Rex. It felt old school all the way. This October we celebrate our 10th anniversary, and we’re going back to celebrate. We returned there for the fifth as well. Good luck with any planning.


  2. Thinking about a wedding before you’ve even so much as met her children is ridiculous. You absolutely are crazy if you think that’s anywhere near okay.

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  3. Rex- I’m glad you and Mona have progressed to where you want to marry and spend your life with her.

    My only comment regarding the kids is – I’m not sure when that introduction will take place – but that it is unfair to spring a fiancé or husband on the kids without their prior knowledge or involvement. It’s a major transition and part of their life so they’ll need time to process that. Please just make sure you guys give them that. They’re old enough to recognize they should have say. I remember the child psychologist making a point to tell me that the announcement of the new partner always must come from that parent with a thoughtful and mature explanation, if asked. No surprises or kids will feel like they were deceived somehow.

    As for nuptials, I think a very meaningful idea is an incredibly tiny ceremony with the kids and parents/immediate family with a special dinner afterward. Then at a later date or time, a big party with those extra close friends and family? Somewhere in between all that, a lovely honeymoon (in the keys?) where you guys can actually have some quality alone time and enjoy each other. 🙂

    I’d hate for you to not be able to express yourself freely on your own blog. Just know that your followers wish you the best.

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  4. Ummmm… dude we seriously need to talk. You know I have only your best interest in mind and I will say it is utterly batshit insane to talk about marriage without meeting her children. I can see how maybe you might not realize this, but as a mother… Holy Hannah… any mother who even considers marrying someone without them meeting her children (I’m referring to those who haven’t left the nest yet)… my friend, this is insane. If I have to come to your city to knock some sense into you, I will.

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