Ugh, I’m an idiot.
So it was Mona’s birthday recently. We have plans to celebrate tomorrow, secret plans to her (though I’m sure she knows what they are.)
I spoke to her the evening before her birthday and made sure to tell her happy birthday. On her birthday, I texted her several times with fun memes or just random “happy birthday” stuff.
But I didn’t call.
As we texted our good nights I realized I should have called her and mentioned something but she was simultaneously letting me have it. She was dumbfounded and ultimately hurt that the man she loved and supposedly loved her back didn’t reach out to call her on her birthday.
This one is clear as day. My fault. Maybe it was because with all of the texting it felt like we spoke, or the fact that we spoke the day before like I had already spoken to her. Maybe subconsciously it was an eff you you her since we’ve been fighting more than normal recently.
Who knows? But its Relationship 101 stuff: call your girlfriend on her birthday.
Ugh, I’m a dope.
We eventually got on the phone and talked it through. Didn’t really arrive to a place where she was ok with it but we did out due diligence.
I’m sure this’ll be put in The List for a long time.
Ugh.
Yeah, you did it yourself, Rex.
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Yep
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IDK. I am more of an introvert… I think phone calls are overrated LOL. Hopefully you’re in good graces soon enough
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Have u met her kids yet?
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Nope
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This is not normal. It’s been how long? Are you actually still contemplating marrying this woman?
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Yep.
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Love is not enough. Marriage is difficult and complicated, even more so for a blended family. If this woman doesn’t trust you enough after more than three years to allow you to spend time with her children, then something is seriously wrong. How are you supposed to suddenly become stepfather to children who don’t even know you?
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Wow has it really been three years now?
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Ah Rex, this should have happened a year ago so I hope it happens soon. I think you should start advocating for yourself and state how important it is for you to meet them if she wants a future with you…
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Yep
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How come you weren’t with her on her birthday?
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She was with her kids.
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Gotcha. So I take that to mean you still haven’t met them then?
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Correct
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Ay… do better next time. Texts are no good. Phone calls better. In person best. I know based on comments that wasn’t possible so just do a lot of ass kissing and learn from the error.
I won’t give you a hard time about the kids… but I agree. This coming from someone who is the Mona in the relationship. Me and Captain = 3 years. He’s been a great bonus to them. It was nerve wracking and intimidating at first and now it’s pretty damn awesome. I wish you guys the same. It’s beautiful to be able to merge the two sides of your life so that it doesn’t constantly feel like you live separate lives. (Meaning the one with the kids.)
Again, our two cents… we don’t know your relationship and what you guys need to function. You do what’s best for you. xo
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Thanks, A. Shes protective and doesn’t want the kids bonding with anyone who might leave
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I understand. It’s tough as a parent to do right by your kids.
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And there’s more too
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Mm, it’s not the end of the world. You can still save yourself. If you didn’t tell her at all it would be a problem.
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It’s all over with
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Really? Why do you say that?
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I just meant she’s over being angry at me for forgetting to call and things are good again
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Good, I’m glad to hear it 😊
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