So when dating Mona, we talked money. We had to when it became known that I was not well off and was irresponsibly burning through savings.
Very open as to what the other made. Especially me. She has her own business with a part in cash so I now suspect the very even, rounded number that she gave is a lie. But me, I’m salaried. So $x=$x.
But I was talking to my cousin Paul about money. Not how much he makes, its none of my business, but if he knows how much his wife, Becky, makes and vice versa. I would think so…
HOWEVER… he said he does not and she does not. They are very financially separate, even in knowing the others incomes.
I realize that many married couples still keep separate books, but is that common among married couples to not even know how the other is doing, as long as they are covering the expenses they’re responsible for? I would think secrecy like that in a marriage would be detrimental, no?