I know, I’m going to hear it.
I did not break up with Mona after all. We had a LONG therapy session, 2+ hours. I did not hold back, even told her I came prepared to break up with her. I yelled a bit too… definitely lost my cool at times.
I’ll spare the details, but we got to a compromise where she paid half of the damages of the glasses.
Well, not exactly. She treated me to something I was going to buy that was worth half the price of the repair.
Why couldn’t she just give me $40? Beats me. She felt weird, I shouldn’t have agreed to take it in the first place, blahblahblah. It’s all very strange.
Ladies, I know this sounds weird, but are you angels with your men? Do you give your men any quarter in arguments, or pull the “women are always right” card out more than you care to admit?
They say behind every angry woman there’s a man who had no idea what he did- that as men, we ride the unpredictable wave that is woman and try to provide stability. I chalk her behavior partially up to that.
“Choose your battles wisely,” as they say. It wasn’t worth breaking up but I stood my ground enough so she had to compromise too.
We wound up having a nice weekend, though it was a bit tenuous at first since we had that crazy argument.
Saturday we exchanged Valentine’s Day presents: she got me a couples massage/spa session plus tchotchkes, I got her some earrings and tchotchkes.
She did bring up the fact that I told her I was ready to break up with her. A few times. She was obviously still taken aback from it.
We had some advanced cuddling. I could tell that we both were slightly removed because of the fight still, but we wanted to get some momentum going, which helped. A little oxytocin goes a long way.
We’re not fully healed but pretty close. I do love her.
The thing that’ll really bother both of us is our schedule. I can’t work from her office anymore. She said it’s too distracting for her, even if I try to be quiet. So that means I see her a full weekend, then a Sunday of the next weekend, with that cycle repeating.
The full weekends won’t really be a full weekend. The Saturday of our full weekend, she’ll spend an afternoon with one child so I have to make myself scarce for 5 hours. This is a new development at the children’s request since they don’t see enough of the father.
Ups and downs. Mostly ups still.