Ok, a brief summary for those just joining:
Two weeks ago, my girlfriend Mona expressed that she can’t be with a man that doesn’t have a job. One who is eating away at his savings. Which is COMPLETELY understandable. We can’t get more serious if I don’t have a job. She couldn’t introduce me to her kids like this. COMPLETELY understandable. It sucks that I’m giving her the opportunityto say so, but it’s what’s so. She was having doubts about us because of that and because I haven’t picked up side work too.
That was an ugly couple of days but then she got to a point where she’s giving me til the end of the summer to readdress the issue.
Disaster averted. Resume happiness.
Since then, I’ve applied to Home Depot, Staples, Best Buy. I’ve spoken to two people who I don’t normally speak to for feedback and help. And I’ve interviewed for two full time jobs, one of which went very well. And I have TWO MORE interviews with them TOMORROW:
One is a discussion with the Head of Client Services (the dept I’m applying for.)
One is an online presentation of one of their products back to them. That’s standard and I’ve done that before. Plus I’ve made hundreds of such presentations in my career. I just need to learn the intricacies of their online research product, which I’ve been doing yesterday and today and planned on doing more of tonight.
Last night, I had cousins in from out of town. After a full day of presentation prep I met up with them in East Side Park by the FDR drive to see the fireworks. Unfortunately, my phone battery was low. Mona knew this. And she started texting me, asking me questions about my 401k, seeing if I hadn’t touched it yet, etc.
I exchanged those texts, answered her questions. I understand she’s concerned, but honestly it couldn’t wait a day or two? I was with my cousins. But I did not say anything to her.
And today was more presentation practice. I was probably good to go but this is a really important presentation tomorrow so more more more.
Mona and I normally text a bit all evening, just shooting the shit about our day. However, she was very short tonight. “Ok, what’s wrong?”
“I’m having doubts about us (because of my unemployment)” she said.
First of all, she’s TEXTING about that? Not SPEAKING about that?
Second of all, she’s bringing that up NOW? While I’m in mid prep for my interview? I tell her that and she calls.
And I just lay into her. “You’re telling me this NOW? Like I need more pressure going into this presentation! WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING?!”
She hung up. Fast. I don’t get angry easy, but when I do I explode easily.
Then she still texted about her concerns!
I replied nastily, not believing that she’s still at it, requesting that she act like she cares about me and just WAIT A DAY.
No, not nastily. Just forcefully defending my point. No curses, no insults.
Ugh! Come on! Throw me a frickin bone here. Yeah, she has her needy tendencies and I tolerate them normally but I just couldn’t take this.
After an hour, she called and apologized.
We’ll still have a confrontation about my situation again. Which I’m not happy about given that she said she’d readdress after the summer. But whatever. If she can’t wait until end of summer, then let’s do this.