So I have cousins. Two in particular are sisters. Women. One in late 40s, Cindy, one in mid 50s, Mabel. (I’m 43.)
I have a better relationship with Mabel, we’ve met up in the city, had dinner. Infrequently, but still it’s something. She’s corporate so has an understanding of my life. She’s a little too much for me to see too often but occasionally is fine.
Cindy fell on me when I was a kid. Broke her wrist. That has nothing to do with now but still fun to say. Cindy was always a little ditzy and clumsy. Nice otherwise.
I saw them at a mutual cousin’s wake last week. And we were talking about Mona, dating, careers. It was nice. Like adults. So much so that afterwards I texted them individually to say how much I enjoyed talking to them.
Their responses were both positive and had a desire to stay in touch.
But to be clear, both used “keep in touch.” Like when my classmates and I signed each other’s high school yearbooks. “You’re great. Keep in touch (phone number.)
To me, “keep in touch” implies “hey, let’s talk or hang out but YOU have to make the effort.”
Man, eff them. Why would they echoes interest in a relationship only to not put any work in?
Ok maybe I’m being too cynical or just ornery, after all if it said “Let’s keep in touch” that would put the onus on “us.” Or maybe that’s how people react when they receive a text saying that it was nice to talk to them.
We’ll see how this plays out.