My uncle finally got a smart phone… and a tablet too… and asked me to come over to help him set it up and tutor him on how they work.
No prob, Unc. We went over it, had a nice time. He’s in his early 60s, never married, no kids.
We had lunch afterwards. After the usual bs about sports and the family, he shared with me about a particular health insurance plan geared towards paying for potential nursing home costs in his old age.
He also mentioned the care he would need to get by family members like cousins, my siblings and me. I could tell he was sad as he mentioned not having kids of his own, to be the primary care givers.
We tend to forget that, for all of the benefits of having children, one of them us to care for us when we get old.
I’m in my early 40s, haven’t married yet, no kids. This conversation was not lost on me. It’s something I realized only recently as my siblings and parents have started discussing about caring for one parent once the other passes away.
Lately I’ve realized that I’m not going to have kids- that I’ve passed my time, too old to start, they’re too expensive at this point, I have a hard enough time finding a connection with a woman to date long term, etc.
Plus the fact that Mona’s factory is closed, not that we’re talking marriage but she’s made that very clear so if things go further I should know what to expect.
I’d hate to be a burden to my nieces and nephews. I feel Unc’s pain. Is there anything I can do about it? Do I want to? Will I regret not doing it? An important question I need to answer ASAP.