Has anyone ever said to you “hey, we should hang out” or you ever said that to someone, but then nobody actually takes the lead to actually MAKE the plans?
I see all of you nodding your head.
It happens to all of us.
Happened to me last Thursday. An ex coworker “Sally” passed me, couldn’t stay and said “hey, we should catch up” and walked away. And no, she wasn’t flirting, she’s got a bf that she bdating bforever. Too bad too. She fine.
But… she didn’t make actual plans. It’s almost as if just stating that you(the proverbial “you”) would like to see somebody actually gives you points.
Like “hey man, I know we’re not REALLY friends so I’m going to act like it somewhat but let’s have a silent agreement that my half-effort is enough.”
Or… the actual making of the plans is perceived as a big pain in the ass. I’m certain that people in my big-group-of-friends-that-I-had-dinner-with recently have said “hey, we should all do dinner sometime” at least a half dozen times before someone actually stepped up to make plans (which was me in this case, and it WAS a pain the the ass at times, like when the restaurant lost my reservation, so I understand that point of view too.)
Do are the unfulfilled requests to hang unfulfilled lip service, or the flakey, agreed upon actions of semi-friendships.
Do me a favor, out in your life take notice if that ever happens, the half-assed hang out suggestion and report back.
Actually on Friday, I’m going to be in the area. I’ll email “Sally” to see if she can get coffee. Oh I’m not afraid to push an envelope.