Ok, I caught a lot of crap at my last job for holding this line. I’m a friendly fellow with many at a job, but I don’t consider everybody coworker that I’m friendly with “a friend.”
I don’t knight people “friend” all willy nilly. It’s an exclusive club.
(And “Facebook friend” does not make is real friends either.)
To me, a friend is somebody with whom you go out of you way to hang.
For example, a then-colleague “Jimmy” made plans to go to a Jets game on a Sunday.
A then-colleague “Jack” one day texted me to see his band and I left my apartment and saw them.
In both cases- Boom. Friends.
By nature, a coworker/colleague does not fall into this bucket, since we’re in the office for other reasons.
“Ok GRex, what if we go out to lunch or drinks/dinner after work?”
Well, if we’re all leaving from work then it’s not completely separate from work, especially if we’re returning there after lunch. There must be some separation and independent desire to reconnect.
At one point, Jack became my boss, at which point we ceased being friends. Friends cannot be in control of other friend’s paychecks.
That’s pretty much how it is, and I think everyone will agree that my reasoning is sound, no?