I got the invitation to a friend’s wedding recently. It said Gratuitous Rex and Guest. AKA I was invited “Plus One”.
Bring a date to talk to, to dance with, and all that good stuff… except I’m in a pretty dry spot. I’m talkin arid extra dry.
I can bring a female friend. Sure. I’ve done that before. However, I’m not really that close with any single women as friends these days to bring one. And trying to bring one who’s not single is more awkward than me going alone. Hmmm…
I’m not going to see if someone knows someone to go with me as a favor. I’m not bringing a total stranger doing a favor. I’ll go solo before that.
I’m out of a job and have been focused on that, haven’t really felt like putting any effort into meeting anyone. Zero. And nothing is what I got.
And I haven’t worked on anything… short term, as some say, either.
If you think about it, really, life is a plus one invitation. Life’s not designed for long-term single-ness. It certainly CAN be done single, but it’s not really designed for it.
We can’t play ping pong, apply sun tan lotion to our backs, or dance to slow songs at weddings.
We can’t mate.
I can practice mating, of course. But as the sage Eugene Levy (and his eyebrows) said in American Pie “it’s like hitting a tennis ball against a brick wall, which can be fun… but it’s not a game… what you want is a partner to return the ball.”
This is definitely some bullshit I’ve been putting up with, as I spoke about in Putting up with Bullshit- a View on Midlife Crisis.
I want someone to return the ball, dammit.
First goal, see when the latest I can RSVP is, and do some work until then to make this happen, to see if I can have a plus one.
Is it open bar? If so, count me in.
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Nice
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Well good luck with all that. Did it really say Gratuitous Rex plus one?
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Well… my actual name
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Yes, just kidding, if you didn’t know…
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; )
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Good luck and hoping your find your tennis partner soon.
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Thanks
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Go alone. There might just be a tennis ball headed your way. Don’t cave into the “couple” pressure.
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Good point
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🙂 I hope you find the “Plus One” soon… I know it’s NOT easy 🙂
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I agree with vanbytheriver, don’t force it. If you have to, go alone. Your partner is probably out there. But if you wind up with a “good enough for the wedding” date, you might miss her entirely. Best of luck crossing her path with yours!
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Thanks
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Darts. You can play darts alone. And if you play against yourself, you’ll be evenly matched!
Good post, good point(s).
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Darts! Yes!
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When’s the wedding?
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Oh it’s funny you say that, I am posting s follow up soon. How I didn’t have a plus one to invite, now… I’ve only had three dates with this woman (there was a gap in the since he mom was on town) it looks like I could have invited her, but still not positive. the RSVP needed to be in by Jan 15 do I could not definitively say is have a guest. The wedding is Feb 28.
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Ah too bad… I am in NYC the night before 🙂
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What for?
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I’m free the 27th
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email me – my “contact me” page has my info.
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I didn’t see your email address. Just a way to send an email to you without getting your email, I think. Check your email
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Yup, that would be it 🙂
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Bingo
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